Burning Beneath

It’s an incredible feeling to witness your children grow—watching them try their best to become the strongest, truest version of themselves. That feeling is even more profound when your child has special needs.

My son is 14 years old. He’s autistic, highly functional, and truly one of the most determined people I’ve ever known. Watching him navigate life, especially now, I see how much he’s absorbed simply by watching me work—whether it’s tackling projects on my van or pushing through challenges life throws my way. I’ve always tried to show him that nothing can truly stop you if you’re determined, careful, and willing to try again and again. And now, I see him becoming the man I’ve always hoped he would grow into.

We’re currently on a short camping trip in our van. It’s not fully finished yet, but the essential systems are up and running smoothly. What’s made this trip truly special is having my son and my youngest son—who’s 13—with me. Watching them side by side, I see how different their personalities are, and it makes me admire my autistic son even more.

If I ask him to help with something and it’s difficult, he doesn’t give up. He tries. And if he struggles, he takes a breath, steps back, and says, “I’ll do this.” Then he tries again. He keeps going until he finds a solution. That kind of resilience—that never-give-up mindset—is everything I’ve ever wanted to instill in him.

Life is not easy. And for someone with special needs, it can be even harder. But today, I’m filled with gratitude. I see growth. I see change. I see strength. I see a beautiful, capable, and determined young man becoming the best version of himself. And I couldn’t be prouder.